A couple of years into marriage, when the honeymoon phase segued into “ordinary time,” and from there some difficulties emerged, I became a student of intimate partnerships. It’s what I do whenever faced with a challenge; I read books, go…
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Honoring Grief
There are two hearty limbs on the tree of grief, in my experience — that of the actual dead and the that of the living dead. Numerous smaller outgrowths branch off of each part, variations of “that which will never…
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With Whom Do You Stand
On several walks home from school recently my nine-year-old has been telling me about a boy in her grade that is very competitive at recess time. The kids will be playing a game and it seems this child goes a…
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A Responsibility to Love
I’m not inclined to ask why does God allow suffering? Instead, my questions are often along the lines of…
Why did that person misuse their free will to hurt another?… or
Why don’t we make better choices when the negative…
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We Are Not Alone
What I like about the doctrine of the Trinity in the Christian Tradition is that it affirms there are different ways — at least three — in which one experiences God.
God as Creator reminds me that there is a…
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Love Is Worth It
We’ve all heard people say “Why me?” when bad things happen. I knew a man, however, who flipped that notion on its head and would say, “Why not me?” In other words, what makes me so special that I would…
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We Work or Mine Alone
If you’re a human who has interacted with other humans, chances are very likely that you’ve experienced relationship challenges at some point in your life. Whether it’s between a parent and child or among spouses, siblings, friends, etc. At times…
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Empathy and Boundaries
Empathy and Boundaries
In recent years I have been become more acutely aware of how narcissistic our society can be. Narcissism is essentially selfishness to an extreme. People with narcissistic tendencies feel entitled to what they want, when they want…
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Sweet Dreams
Last night I had the privilege of presenting online to a wonderful group of women on the topic of “Spiritual Growth through Dream Work.” I’m not a therapist, psychologist, or Jungian analyst but I am a contemplative seeker who has…
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Building Bridges
This past week, theologian, author, professor, and Catholic priest Hans Küng passed away at the age of 93, may he rest in peace. His work was a powerful and liberating influence on me in graduate school. For starters, he appealed…
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