Addressing Cognitive Distortions 

A good friend of mine once shared how she was working on addressing cognitive distortions in her life. She is excellent at her job, gets amazing reviews and feedback, yet something in her doubts her performance on a regular basis…

The Book Being Written 

I’m a writer, and so it’s not unreasonable to think that one day I will publish a book. It’s on my list.  And actually I have published four music albums, one EP, and a compilation.  So I know a little…

The Difference Between Good and Great 

I have had the privilege of being trusted with other people’s personal stories many times throughout my life.  I assume that’s because I’m willing to be vulnerable with others myself, and I don’t hold back on asking questions in the…

Living With Contradictions 

I care about the environment, yet I drive an SUV some of the time. 

I am a vegetarian who sees no need to kill fellow mammals for human survival in modern life, yet I cooperate in feeding our daughters venison…

Neither Invade Nor Abandon

The Center for Action and Contemplation offers daily meditations. In one from last week, contemplative practitioner and clinical psychologist, James Finley, wrote the following: 

“When you risk sharing what hurts the most in the presence of someone who will not…

My Force Field 

The other day my children were watching a riveting episode of “My Little Pony,” in which Princess Cadance (an alicorn pony) had to generate a force field through her horn to protect the village from a dysfunctional pony. It made…

A Graced Decision

The other day I was talking to a mentor of mine about decisions. Often when a choice comes before us in life we have a gut response about what to do. When that choice is tacos or pizza, a quick…

Our Story Goes On 

This week I lost someone who meant a lot to me.  She had been dealing with cancer for several years and did quite well to survive and thrive despite the hardships.  It was a terminal prognosis however, and recently we…

Two Kinds of Power 

I’ve heard it said that there are two kinds of power, the kind that comes from within our spirit and the kind that comes from our ego.  The power from within values life, sees others as equal, and welcomes opportunities…

Waiving Entitlement 

There is a couple I know. I’ll call them Jake and Francine. Several years, and a few children into their marriage, Francine had a major indiscretion. She was remorseful, worked hard to make amends, and Jake truly forgave her. They…

Grounded in Compassion 

Author and founder of Compassion Power, Steven Stosny, Ph.D., teaches that the root cause of abuse is a “failure of compassion.” This is also what plagues the discourse of taboo topics such as politics and religion. When we cling…

To Begin Again 

This past week I concluded one trip around the sun and started another.  Often when I roll into a new year of life I look for ways to begin again, to hit the reset button on living from my core…